Friday, October 9, 2015

Let it all go and fall

In the last week, I have come across 2 scenarios that have encouraged me in a "free falling" posture.  One scenario I saw on TV.  It was a special, documenting people's lives.  There was a guy, who climbed this mountain and he ended up slipping, and as he fell through the air, his arms and feet hustled to gain his ground back, but only for a few seconds and then he stoped fighting, relaxes his body and rests into the fall.  He knew he wasn't going to survive the fall and he didn't fight what was coming.
Then, there was another scenario, I read about in a book called "Discovering Your Soul Signature".  This was a true story as well.  There was a young women who was driving her "Mini Cooper" down the street and she was rear ended by a school bus that was going about 50 miles per hour.  Her car wrecked, but she opened the door and got out the car with no injuries, and she said "that at the moment of impact, her body went limp. She just completely … let go.”

I have never tried this posture of letting go and "free falling". But I'm sensing that there are times and seasons where we need to take on this posture.  Stop scratching and clawing and just open your hands, let go and fall into whatever awaits us.  I'm sure it's good, because God says he has good plans for us:

Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope. 

Many of us think we can't let go.  We are scared to let go.  We are scared of the unknown.  We are scared of not trying to control outcomes.  But I believe that in "letting go" the adventure of your life will truly begin.  

Saturday, September 19, 2015

Crazy, sexy me?

So I know my title is kind of "off the beaten path",  but lately God has been taking me off the beaten path.  I have a story about me.  When I accepted Jesus Christ as my Lord and Savior, words cannot describe the joy that I felt, and I was glad to be in the house of God every chance I could.  I loved my church home.  Some things started to happen that I didn't pay much attention to, but they had a traumatic impact on me in the long run.  When I began my Christian journey I was totally myself, basking in the joy of my Savior. However, over time I started to cover-up more and more of who I really was, little by little; until I didn't look like myself at all anymore.  I remember the first time one of the women, in the church, gave me something to cover my legs because I had on a skirt.  I want to add that my skirt was knee length.  It's funny because I didn't know why they kept handing me this, I don't know what it was, a cloth to cover up.  This was during the sermon so I would quietly say "No, I'm fine".  I thought that maybe it was a courtesy in case I was cold.  I didn't really grow up in the church so I wasn't familiar with church protocol regarding the matter of covering up, if you had a skirt on.  But after some days I figured out what they were trying to do, and I was kind of offended and I don't know why.  But I just decided I would not sit that close to the front of the sanctuary anymore, if I was wearing a skirt.  That was only the beginning.  I started to also find that I was drawing alot of attention to myself, but it was not on purpose.  It was not my purpose at all, but it was happening so I got very self conscious about how I was dressing.  I started to only wear baggy clothes, I stopped keeping my hair done, and I stopped wearing makeup.  I just really started to try to play down my beauty.  I think I was use to that attention when I was in other places, but I was so naive, because I didn't think I would draw that type of attention in church.  It caught me off guard and I thought it was the right thing to do, to start to cover up.  During that time, I had a discussion with a very close friend who had a strong walk with God and he began to ask me why I was dressing like I was, why was everything so baggy?  And I told him why; and he told me that I didn't have to cover up myself, he told me I should not be afraid of my own beauty.  He told me that I should not feel like I have to play down my beauty because of other people.  I eventually lost some of my pizazz in all that cover-up.  Now I'm on a journey back to my pizazz!!  Back to my crazy, sexy, me.  While I know, as a Christian, that this post might offend some other Christians who feel that the word "sexy" and the word "Christian" should not be used in the same sentence.  But I strongly disagree.  To me, the word sexy means attractive, appealing to the senses in a pleasurable way.  To me, God is very attractive, very appealing, and very pleasurable.  I think that the people you meet, who are really on fire for God, would probably agree with me.  Every Christian I have ever met, with a vibrant relationship with the Lord comes off as very attractive.  Jesus is attractive, He is intriguing, He is provocative.  God made us, so we are attracted to certain attributes for a reason.  God embodies many of the characteristics that attract us, as human beings, because we are made in His likeness.     You have to get to know Him outside of "religion".  Because "religion" can sometimes play it safe, dress it up, cover it up, make it look safe.  Religion sometimes does not introduce us to a provocative, intriguing, exciting, adventurous, intimate God.  Religion introduces us to a safe, rule-giving, boring, condemning God.  That is so far from the truth about God.  God is in fact very sexy, very attractive, super cool, and very provocative.  To be Christlike means not being safe.  It means being provocative.  Since Jesus is very attractive, He makes you very attractive when you accept Him as your Lord and Savior.    For those that doubt in terms of what I stated here, you should read the Songs of Solomon.  If that's not "sexy" I don't know what is.

Monday, September 14, 2015

Start fresh by forgiving yourself

Did you know that every morning you wake up with new baby nerve cells, in your brain, that have been born while you were sleeping; and that these are at your disposal to be used in tearing down toxic thoughts and rebuilding healthy thoughts.  According to the book, "Switch on Your Brain", the birth of these new baby nerve cells is called neurogenesis, which brings to mind the following scripture:
Through the Lord’s mercies we are not consumed,
Because His compassions fail not.
23 They are new every morning;
Great is Your faithfulness.

"They are new every morning".  To understand that God produces something tangible to carryout His word in our lives is just amazing!!!

Many times when I fall off the wagon, concerning anything that I'm suppose to be doing in life, I get discouraged and beat myself up and that just keeps me from getting back on the path that I need to be on.  What I am learning to do now is to remember that I get a "fresh start".  Remember that God has destined us for "fresh starts".  A "fresh start" is a part of your destiny and my destiny.  Even if you messed up royalty today, you can leave that behind and know that you can still be great tomorrow.  Don't allow the guilt that results from messing up, to hold you back from the greatness that God has placed in you.   You have to forgive yourself, just as God forgave you in Christ.  God wants us to make forgiving ourselves such a lifestyle, that our mess ups don't shake us anymore.   He wants you to be free from your mistakes. He doesn't want the mistakes that you make to control and guide your future behavior; and the only way that can happen is to forgive yourself everyday.  In God's mercy we get to start with a fresh slate everyday, as long as we don't continue to remember our mistakes in such a way that they hold us hostage.  I have been held hostage to my own mistakes in the past; and that really held me back.  I just realized that I have to allow myself to be free from the mistakes I make on a daily basis.  I can't let them define me and I can't let them lead me to believe that somehow I have gotten off coarse.  The only way that your mistakes can take you off the right path, is if you let them.  The only way you can let them, is by not forgiving yourself.  When you forgive yourself, daily, of every mistake that you have made, you are free to keep moving forward in your life.  If you don't, you might find yourself standing still in some areas.  Choose a "fresh slate".  Forgive yourself daily.

Wednesday, September 9, 2015

Disciple your emotions

In the past the word "disciple"  has never came off to have a warm meaning to me.  I have never viewed it in a negative way. I am a disciple of Christ and I believe in discipleship.  But the statement of "disciple your emotions" has been popping up in my mind for at least a month now.  I thought I would explore it.  As this popped up in my mind, it started to have a warmer tone to it.  Think about it:  Which one sounds gentler: "Discipline your emotions" or "Disciple your emotions".  I believe we are suppose to disciple our emotions by taking them gently and leading them into to the light of God's word everyday.

We have so many ways of dealing with our emotions.  We hide them, we resist them, we dislike them, when they are positive we embrace them.  But we hide, resist, and dislike when they are not positive.  I don't think we should.  I think we should explore our emotions even when they are negative.  Ask yourself why you feel "some kind of way".  and wait quietly for answers.  Don't allow your emotions to make you anxious.  Don't be afraid of them either.  Scripture is a refuge in which you can explore your emotions.  Figure out how your feeling.  Many times it will be a pointer towards how to disciple your emotions at that time:  Look at the scripture below:

Blessed is the man who trusts in the Lord,
And whose hope is the Lord.
For he shall be like a tree planted by the waters,
Which spreads out its roots by the river,
And will not fear[b] when heat comes;
But its leaf will be green,
And will not be anxious in the year of drought,
Nor will cease from yielding fruit.

The scriptures above have been great for helping me disciple my emotions.  There are times where I look at a scripture like this and realize that I feel confined instead of spread out.  I feel parched and thirsty instead of feeling like I have a constant water supply.  Scripture can give you a description for your emotions whether good or bad.  When I feel confined, desperate,  and anxious that means I'm currently not trusting in God.  That doesn't mean that I don't trust God, it just means that I am struggling in certain areas with it.  This scripture is so great because it tells me that all I must do is turn my attention back to God and trust Him again.  It points my desire back towards refreshing and peace,  which turns me away from trying to produce my own results.  It reminds me that, it is through trusting God that I will be fruitful and successful in life.  When you disciple your emotions, it's just a gentle way of exploring what you are feeling through the bible and then guiding your desires by reading God's good desires for you.   

Cursed is the man who trusts in man
And makes flesh his strength,
Whose heart departs from the Lord.
For he shall be like a shrub in the desert,
And shall not see when good comes,
But shall inhabit the parched places in the wilderness,
In a salt land which is not inhabited.

I'm a Christian but, at times, I can still find myself in a dry and thirsty place and even though I'm saved, so I'm not cursed.  I know that I have found myself feeling dry and thirsty because in some area I have started to rely on myself and I am not trusting God.  I know that the description of  "dry", "thirsty", "deserted" are indicative of a place where God does not want me.  Below is where God wants me:

Psalm Chapter 1
Blessed is the man
Who walks not in the counsel of the ungodly,
    Nor stands in the path of sinners,
    Nor sits in the seat of the scornful;
But his delight is in the law of the Lord,
    And in His law he meditates day and night.
He shall be like a tree
    Planted by the rivers of water,
    That brings forth its fruit in its season,
    Whose leaf also shall not wither;
And whatever he does shall prosper.

Be Blessed and Peaceful today

Friday, August 28, 2015

Lets talk.......

I have had this blog for about 7 years now, yet I have found myself wondering about my audience.  Nobody leaves any comments so I wonder "Who is reading it?".  I wonder what my audience needs in their lives right now.   I know there is a purpose why you are here on this blog.  I have even considered taking it down, because I have been doing it for so long, but I feel like I'm talking to myself most of the time.  That's kind of why I first started it, because I needed a place to talk to myself, but now I have grown to a desire to touch my audience.  Not just myself.

I'm actually praying God will show me what to do with this blog, because I don't know that it's growing.  And anything I pursue in life, after years, I really need to see the growth of it.  Is this blog living in a sense where God is breathing on it to be a blessing to many???  Definitely praying about expansion and next steps.

In the meantime, I have come to realize that you are reading this as more than just a body on a computer.  You are more then just your mind.  You are a soul.  In the culture we live in, we get treated like we are just our minds or we are just are bodies.  Maybe we are just our accomplishments.  This could not be further from the truth.  We have actually bought into it, in many subtle ways, myself included. We have felt we have to obsess about our bodies, or that we have to heap up accomplishment after accomplishment for our life to be worth anything. Or we have to appear to know all the answers  Or maybe you feel like you are just your paycheck and without that, you feel like you would be lost. Maybe you feel like you are the sum of what you can offer to others.  That's a big one that I'm guilty of.  But that is yet another lie.  I am so much more that what I can offer to you or to anybody.  I am a soul.  A living breathing soul and so are you.  Our souls are with us before we are born and they are eternal.  They never die.  How awesome is that.  Your soul is your forever companion and we ought to do right by it don't you think? 

When we find our value in the wrong things we tend to let the wrong things guide our lives, dictate our schedules, and determine our value to the world around us.  God says you are valuable just because you have a soul, that's why before you even come out of the womb and accomplish anything, you are already valuable to God.  Before you make any money, before you touch any lives, before you get married, before you have kids, before you step foot in a church, before you take your first steps, before you say your first words.  Before any of this you are already valuable to God, because of your soul.  It is your soul that is the upmost value to Him and should be the upmost value to you. 

Jeremiah 1:5 - Before I formed you in the womb I knew you; Before you were born I sanctified you;

Even with this said it is so hard to get away from the feeling of worthlessness or get away from attaching our worth to the wrong things.  But this gets tiring. And your soul grows weary because you are not nurturing your inward person (your soul).  Have you ever felt empty?  Have you ever felt like you have an insatiable appetite that never gets satisfied?  Have you ever felt like you constantly need to be busy, for your life to be worthwhile?  Have you ever felt like you are just waiting until the next thing to happen?  Do you find it hard to exist in the moment? Does quietness or stillness make you uncomfortable?  What do you do?  Who do you consult?  The Psalmist, David, consulted with his soul.

Psalm 13:2 How long shall I take counsel in my soul
Psalm 42:5 Why are you cast down, O my soul? And why are you disquieted within me?

Our soul remembers things that our mind does not.  You must take counsel with your soul.  Many things that we think we are without are already within us.  Answers we seek, because our soul is our connection to God.  Our soul has had intimate fellowship with the Lord and our soul remembers God's plan for our lives.  Our soul remembers what God spoke to us before we were formed in the womb.  Your soul remembers, consult with your soul

As I pray about this blog, I hope that you will leave comments, let me know you're out there and I pray I can learn more about you and you don't remain anonymous.  You can even send email.

Ande Carr 


Monday, August 24, 2015

Book Study - Switch on Your Brain Ch3 Part 1

Excerpt from "Switch on your brain"

"Main Scripture: Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good,…pleasing and perfect will. Romans 12:2 NIV

Linked Science Concept: Through our thoughts we can be our own micro surgeons as we make choices that will change the circuits in our brains. We are designed to do our own brain surgery and rewire our brains by thinking and by choosing to renew our minds." 

I have meditated on the scripture above over the years but I always wondered what it really meant.  I think I have understood bits and pieces but when I read this book, it showed me that we are actually hardwired to fullfill this scripture in our lives.  God has given us the equipment to carry out His will. He has!!!!  This book shows you how to begin to use that equipment. 

Dr. Leaf states that "This scientific power of our mind to change the brain is called epigenetics and spiritually is is as a man thinks, so is he (Proverbs 23:7) The way the brain changes as a result of mental activity is scientifically called neuroplasticity. And spiritually, it is the renewing of the mind (Romans 12:2)"

The scientific evidence for scripture is simply profound.  God's word is true and His intention has always been to carry it out through us.  If you are anything like me, you have wondered why it's so hard to change and break old habits.  Maybe you have wondered why you haven't seen any growth spiritually, even though you are trying to do all the right things to learn more about God.  This book is not the entire answer but it does shed some light on how we can begin to play a very active part, with God, in being transformed by the renewing of our minds so we can begin to carryout God's will in our lives.  Within scripture you hear constant references to the "heart" "mind" "spirit" "soul", none of which you can see.  The scripture below talks about the power of the things that you cannot see:

Hebrews 11:3 By faith we understand that the worlds were framed by the word of God, so that the things which are seen were not made of things which are visible

When you consider the scriptural truth above; it is no different then how we produce output in our everyday lives?  For example, when it comes to the spirit, we cannot necessarily see the "spirit" but the spirit can be measured by it's fruit.  

Below is more excerpts from the book:
"The decisions you make today become part of the thought networks in your brain. The two copies of the chromosome that you carry in each of your cells contain the entire set of genetic material necessary to make you. An interesting point: A cell in your brain and a cell in your kidney contain the exact same DNA. And while in utero (in the womb), the nascent (emerging, developing) cells differentiate into either a brain cell or a kidney cell only when crucial epigenetic processes turn the right genes on or off. So God has designed perfectly timed epigenetic signals to switch on in the womb as the baby is developing. “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you” (Jer. 1:5). 

The epigenetic marks in our genes that may predispose us to smoke, eat too much of the wrong foods, be negative, or worry can change.  The way we react—our thinking and choosing—becomes the signal that activates or deactivates the generational issues in our lives. "

What Dr. Leaf says above further confirms Hebrew 11:3 when it says that the things which are seen were not made by things which are visible.  

Take away thought - In our culture today we give much time and fuss over the things which are visible, but the things which are not visible tend to suffer.  I think realizing that the way in which we think is the creative process that God has blessed us with, to be co-creators with Him, in the lives that we are called to live out on this earth.  You no longer have to passively, will yourself, to do something unsuccessfully; because you now know that you have the equipment to carry out your very thoughts.  Your brain carries out the intentions of your mind.  It is your brain that is central in producing the output for the rest of your body, but it is a passive instrument merely responding to our mind.  It is in our minds in which we think,  it is our brain that carries it out.    


Friday, August 21, 2015

Book Study -Switch on Your Brain Ch2

Main Scripture - Colossians 3:15 (AMP)
Let the peace (soul harmony which comes) from Christ rule (act as umpire continually) in your hearts [deciding and settling with finality all questions that arise in your minds, in the peaceful state] to which as [members of Christ's] one body you were also called [to live]. And be thankful (appreciative), [giving praise to God always]

Linked Scientific Concept
Choice is real, and free will exists.  You are able to stand outside of yourself, observe your own thinking, consult with God, and change the negative, toxic thought or grow the healthy positive thought.  When you do this, your brain responds with a positive neuro-chemical rush and structural changes that will improve your intellect, health, and peace.  You will experience soul harmony

If a doctor was to show you an image of the neurons, proteins and chemical responses in your brain you would see things that look like trees with branches.  Your thoughts actually form proteins and produce chemical responses that form branch like connections in your brain.    One thought, whether negative or positive, can form a web of connections in your brain that will produce negative or positive output through your actions and your health.  How you  handle and process your thoughts is a choice.  You can grow healthy thoughts by choosing not to worry or to be anxious, both are areas in which God advises us below:
 Matthew 6
“Therefore I say to you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink; nor about your body, what you will put on. Is not life more than food and the body more than clothing? 26 Look at the birds of the air, for they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns; yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they? 27 Which of you by worrying can add one cubit to his stature?
28 “So why do you worry about clothing? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow: they neither toil nor spin; 29 and yet I say to you that even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these. 30 Now if God so clothes the grass of the field, which today is, and tomorrow is thrown into the oven, will He not much more clothe you, O you of little faith?
31 “Therefore do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ 32 For after all these things the Gentiles seek. For your heavenly Father knows that you need all these things. 33 But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you. 34 Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about its own things. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.

How many times does Jesus say above do not worry? We are not called to a life of worry.  We are called to a life of peace.  We are not called to "worry".  We are called to "peace".  Lately when I'm tempted to worry or dwell on something that causes stress, I have heard something in my heart say "You are not called to this".  You are called to "prayer".  You are called to "casting your cares" upon God.  Look below:

1 Peter 5
Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you in due time, casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you.

Phillippians 4:6
Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God;  

As you can see, you  have not been called to worry and you cause literal "brain damage" in doing so.  You have been called to something so much better and God has given you the equipment to live in this truth.  This will literal produce trees of life in your brain.  These trees are made of proteins, neurons, and real chemical processes that will altar the facts or your life and change the output of your life.  Below is an excerpt from "Switch on Your Brain":

"Just the mind activity from your reading of the next few lines generates electromagnetic, electrochemical, and quantum action in your neurons. It causes
magnetic fields that can be measured;
electrical impulses that can be tracked;
chemical effects that can be seen and measured;
photons to be activated that can be captured on computer screens;
 energy activity that can be explained using quantum physics; and
vibrations in the membranes of the neurons that can be picked up by instrumentation.
This combined activity sets up an intricate and organized sequence of actions of neurotransmitters, proteins, and energy that forms a signal. Your thinking has just created a powerful signal that is going to change the landscape of your brain.
 This signal you have just created passes through the membrane of the cell, travels to the cell’s nucleus, and enters the chromosome, activating a strand of DNA. The DNA is zipped up, almost as though it is in a cocoon, until activated or unzipped by the signal. When the DNA is zipped up, it is in a dormant or inert state. This cocoon also protects the DNA from the rest of the intracellular environment while in this inert state.
So, the zipped up DNA has to be opened so that the appropriate genetic code needed to build…
Genes may create an environment within us in which a problem may grow, a predisposition, but they do not produce the problem; we produce it through our choices."
My Final Thought - Our reaction and interaction with life constructs a life within us that creates the output that produces our external life.  Deep reflective thinking builds healthy brain cells, not short rapid fire thoughts, produced by rushing through life.  As you go through your day, pause frequently and think through your reactions to things and your interaction with your life.   


Thursday, August 20, 2015

Book Study -Switch on Your Brain Ch1

The main scripture for Chapter 1 is
2 Timothy 1:7
"God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind"
 The Scientific Concept:
Science shows we are wired for love with a natural optimism bias.  This means what the scripture above says.

I am reading this book for the 2nd time and have learned that we are capable of doing our own brain surgery and changing the way our brain is wired.  This can work for the negative or the positive.  God has already wired us towards certain things when He created us.  Good things.  That's why He says in Phillippians 4:8 to meditate on the following:
Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things.

I'm leaning that God does not just say these things because He wants us to exercise some type of willpower to do it.  He says it because it's what He has actually hard wired us to do it.  When we focus our mind on toxic thoughts it actually does "damage" to our brain because it changes the hard wiring of our brain.  Our thinking actually produces proteins and chemical reactions that produce genetic expression.  Remember that the brain controls the rest of our body, but the "mind" controls that brain.  Some quotes from chapter 1 below:

"Scientists are proving that the relationship between what you think and how you understand yourself--your beliefs, dreams, hopes, and thoughts-has a huge impact on how your brain works"

"Research shows that 75 to 98 percent of mental, physical, and behavioral illness comes from one's thought life.  This staggering and eye-opening statistic means only 2 to 25 percent of mental and physical illnesses come from the environment and genes.

Take away thought - Guard your thought life above everything. Guard against toxic thoughts that don't line up with God's word.  Doing this can change how your brain is wired for the better and change your life for the better.  

Proverbs 23:7 - For as he thinks in his heart, so is he.

Tuesday, August 11, 2015

Seasonal Activities

I began a new season in my life about 5 months ago and I went from being a stay-at-home mom who worked occasionally throughout the week, to being a work-at-home mom.  Meaning I started working daily with my kids at home with me.  It was a hard transition and still continues to be something that I'm still getting use to.  I have had to let alot of things slide around my home and with my children in order to work from home on a regular basis.  Honestly, I never thought I would make business I priority over my more domestic duties.  But here I am.  I have struggled with guilt, but I have come to realize a couple things.

1.  I know for a fact if God wasn't the One propelling me, I would not have been able to commit to working from home.

2.  Even if I was to try to stay on top of the things that I was letting slide, I would get nowhere because it is not the season for me to be focused on those things

3.  You have to allow God to develop the "whole person" not just certain aspects of you.  We are all multi-faceted human beings.  God does not just desire to develop one area of your life and leave the rest alone.  He wants you to be fully developed and "whole".  Who doesn't want you living in a way where you are not complete

Ecclesiastes 3:3 (NIV
There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven.

"A season for every activity under heaven".  At any given time in life, we can be flooded with a flurry of activity.  However. our question for God should be which activities are for this season that I'm in?  Then focus on those.  

Thursday, August 6, 2015

Pain and Stuggles That We all Have

Does anybody have pain in their lives right now?  Does anyone have sin that they struggle with?  My hand is definitely raised up high in the air.  What are the answers to the pains of the world?  What is the answer to your pain and my pain?  What is the answer to your sin and my sin?  What about that word sin, what does it mean?  Sin means that "we miss the mark".  That simple.  "Missing the mark" expresses itself in different ways in a person's life, depending on that individual.  What is the answer?  Well, Jesus is the answer.  Why is Jesus the answer?  The question at the core of every human being who struggles with sin is "Does God still accept me like this?".  This is the million dollar question.  Drug addicts, prostitutes, gay, lesbian, transgender, child molesters, rapist, exotic dancer, murderers, alcoholics, etc.  At their core they are wondering "Does God accept me like this?"
Many have told them that God will not accept them.  Many have told them that God rejects them.  May have gone so far as to tell people that they couldn't possibly be Christian if they are struggling with any of the above things mentioned.  This opinion of God is simply not based on the bible.  I didn't want to blog tonite so I'll keep it short.  None of us really know or completely understand the struggles of another, but as a human being, I understand that the struggle is real.  I understand that the pain is real.  You can't talk it away or pray it away.  I have gone through many struggles with identity in my lifetime. When I accepted Christ as my Lord and Savior, I experienced the joy of forgiveness and knowing that I could have a relationship with God and that He accepted me.  However, about 2 years after that I feel into depression, anxiety, etc. God eventually brought me out of that but it was only through much prayer, for a couple years, and God let me know I needed to change my diet and start going back to the gym.  That worked!!  But then I got married and had kids,  I went through probably the first 3 to 4 years of motherhood struggling, trying to figure myself out as a wife and mom.  It was hard, because for about 3 years I didn't even feel like my relationship with God was really that vibrant anymore. I stopped praying because I was tired of hearing "quiet" on the other end.  That's where God had me for about 4 years.  In a "quiet" place.  He would show me certain things I needed to do in my life and then it would be just my practicing what he had shown me for years on end.   There are certain areas of my life that He wanted me to become real sensitive to,
in terms of the way I functioned and how it affected me. But I didn't feel like I was really growing for years.  But I was.  See sometimes it doesn't feel like we are growing or changing, but we really are.  Sometimes it doesn't feel like God is delivering us from our current struggle, but He is.  I've waited many years to see the growth and changes that were taking place in me when I didn't even know it.  I have learned that you should wait to see your change, don't feel like you just have to accept something, if you know it's not God's will.  But know that God accepts you just the way you are but He also wants to renew your mind.  Even when you are not accepting something in your life, that doesn't mean that you're done with it.  Even when you don't accept a lie, you can still be in the midst of living the lie out in your life.  That's because change doesn't happen overnight.  It happens over years of an intimate loving relationship between you and your heavenly Father.  Don't try to change yourself, you cannot change yourself. True change is the work of the Holy Spirit and you will eventually become the change that the Holy Spirit is working in you if you cooperate with Him.

Wednesday, August 5, 2015

When "thoughts" make you sick

"Is that thought worth making you sick?"  Last night before I went to bed I started to think about everything I wasn't doing and hadn't done with my 3 yr old to prepare him for preschool.  As I thought about it, these feelings of dread began to try to take up residence in my gut.  For the first time I can recall, I stepped out of myself and asked myself, "What is this thought doing for me?"  That particular thread of thought had no potential to produce anything good in my life.  I knew that, because I witnessed the negative impact of it physically, almost immediately.  Of coarse, it's not a "bad" thing to want your child prepared for school.  But our thought patterns can take something that is positive and turn it into something "toxic" in your body.  What do you do when you believe you should be considering and thinking about something, but when you think about it;  it causes dread to rise up in your body. 

The first things to do, is observe any symptoms in your body that occur as you think about "certain" things.  Symptoms could be a tightening in the stomach, head, or chest.  There are other symptoms that could accompany certain things you think about.  I have even had diarrhea based on something I was thinking about that was overwhelming to me.  When I observe these symptoms occurring, it tells me that whatever I'm thinking about is producing a negative affect on me and I need to not think about it at this time.  It has nothing to do with whether or not the subject of my thoughts is "good" or "bad".  At that time the subject matter is having a negative effect on me, and that is my body trying to tell me that it's not a healthy choice for me to think about at that time.

What do we do, if there is something that stresses us out, but is also an important and pressing need?  How can we not think about it?  That's where you start learning to cast your cares on the Lord, because He cares for you. 

1Peter 5
“God resists the proud,
But gives grace to the humble.”[b]
Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you in due time, casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you.

If there is something in your life that is pressing, yet overwhelming for you to think about, you have to choose to make it a matter of prayer, instead of it being a matter of thought.  It's too big for you, so give it to God.  There are things that should only be matters of prayer and other things that are matters of thought.  What does God say about "matters of thought"?

For the rest, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is worthy of reverence and is honorable and seemly, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely and lovable, whatever is kind and winsome and gracious, if there is any virtue and excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think on and weigh and take account of these things [fix your minds on them].  
There are specific types of things that your mind should be consumed with, then there are specific things that should ONLY be matters of prayer.  Learning the difference is key to living a healthy, faith-filled life.  

The first step is becoming keenly aware of the affects, of your thoughts, on your body and making informed decisions on the paths you are going to travel when it comes to your thoughts.

Deuteronomy 30
19 I call heaven and earth as witnesses today against you, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and cursing; therefore choose life, that both you and your descendants may live; 

There are paths we can travel that will produce faith.
There are paths we can travel that will produce fear.  

Learning to discern and make the choice is something God can help you with.   

Tuesday, July 28, 2015

Serious stuff and calling "sin" what it is.

I'm not good at everything and I'm not good at every relationship I have in my life.  I wish I was but I can never be, so I have choose the relationships that are the most important for me excel in.  My relationship with God, my relationship with my husband, my relationship with my children, my relationship with my parents;  in that exact order.  Everything else is important also, but it still remains in the "everything else" category.  There are alot of "important" things in my life that have to be placed in the "everything else" category.  Honestly, there are alot of things that are important to me, but just not as important as the most important things, and I can't do it all. 

There has to come a time in life where we get serious about what's important to us and we have to stopp being stretched too thin, by not identifying the "most important" things. We cannot do anything well when we are stretched too thin.  Honestly, there are some things that I really want to do well in this lifetime.  I want to lead my kids into a healthy, abundant relationship with Christ.  I want to be my husband's support in achieving His God-given purposes in life.  I want to use my unique gifts to to be the best daughter, the best wife, the best mom, and the best businesswoman I can be.  I don't want to achieve anybody else's  "best".  I want to achieve my own best, based on what God has deposited into me.

Let me say something about the bible, in light of the issues we deal with in today's culture. There are things that God tells us "not to do" in the bible. 
1.  He tells us "not to do" certain things because He knows we will be tempted to do these things.  God would not instruct us not to do certain things, if He didn't know we would be tempted. When you are tempted to do something that goes blatantly against what God says in His word, don't say to yourself "God made me this way" and don't say "why would God put the desire here, if He didn't want me to act on it".  In the bible, God is like "Look, I know you are going to want to do certain things.  I know you are going to have strong desires that you are going to want to act on, but lemme tell you this; 'don't do it'.  I know you want to, but don't". 

James chapter 1   13 Let no one say when he is tempted, “I am tempted by God”; for God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does He Himself tempt anyone. 14 But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed. 15 Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, brings forth death.

Now don't get me wrong, I am no "good girl".  I myself have sin in my life.  But I don't call my sin something else, I call it what it is.  I don't say "God gave me this desire".  I admit that it's sin, and I'm struggling with it and I ask for God's help.  Sometimes, it takes years of praying before I even see an improvement in areas where I've struggled with sin.  But I know God does deliver me.  Not right away, but over time as I pray and accept God's forgiveness everyday, I grow and I see myself overcoming things that were once overcoming me.  I believe when people don't call the sins in their lives what they are, and instead sugarcoat them by calling them something else, there is a tremendous amount of guilt and condemnation as a result.  But I believe when we call the sin in our lives "sin", the floodwaters of God's forgiveness is able to enter our hearts.  It's like the scripture below:

Romans 5:8

But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.
This says, just as plain as day, that you don't have to get your life straight to get your relationship straight with God.  He is ready to love you right where you are.  But how will you receive or even know that you need that love if you are lying to yourself about where you really are in your life.  Confession of sin is not about God keeping a list of all our sins, He actually erases our sins.  Confession is important because you can only receive the extravagant love of God, poured out in your life, if you call "sin" what it is, in  your own life.  Don't blame people, don't say God made me this way.  Just call it what it is, admit you struggle with it, admit the bible says it's wrong, and ask God for help and know that He loves you right where you are and at the same time, over time He will help you overcome.  

1 John Chapter 1  9 If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 

Honestly, this scripture above is about you confessing your sin to God, not other people. What does cleansing "from all unrighteousness" mean.  It doesn't mean making you perfect.  It doesn't mean removing sin completely from your life.  It means that when you are honest with God and with yourself you are no longer "unright" with God.  It is confessing your sin and accepting forgiveness through Christ that makes your right with God.  Unrighteousness means being "unright" with God.  You get your life right with God by saying to God that I need to be saved because I'm a sinner and I need forgiveness.  After that you are made right with God through the blood that Jesus shed for you on the cross, because He paid the penalty for every sin you will commit and have committed and are committing right now.  But how can you receive it if you don't confess that you need it by confessing your sin???  Jesus came to save sinners.  Even to grow once you become a Christian, you have to always be honest with yourself and God about the sin in your life, so it won't have control over your life.   

Tuesday, July 21, 2015

Wednesday - "Are you willing"

I believe people use many different words sometimes to describe the same feelings.  There are times when I believe God is speaking to me, because I keep hearing the same statement resonate in my heart and mind.  I don't know if anybody else, reading this, has ever had a thought, a statement, or an idea (concept), just settle on their hearts.  We don't always know what to do when this happens.  We don't normally accept it right away, right?  We kind of brush it off the first time it comes up, but it just keeps coming up.  My question to you is "What if we believe that it's God speaking to us and we believe what He is saying?".

Sometimes I get nervous when it comes to my clients.  I get nervous because "What if I can't deliver the result that they want?".  As I thought it over this week, this is what I heard in my heart:  "They are not paying you because of some result they are expecting you to deliver.  They are paying you because I commanded the blessing on you"  God doesn't command people in that way, but He commands blessings.  Many times the blessings travel through the hands of others, but it's God who commands the blessing.

Deuteronomy 28:8
“The Lord will command the blessing on you in your storehouses and in all to which you set your hand, and He will bless you in the land which the Lord your God is giving you.

So, what if I believe God is saying this to me and I believe what He said.  If I believe it then I won't stress out anymore about the results.  That sounds weird right?  As a business person we are suppose to be concerned about the results.  But that's not God's way.  Honestly, God just wants you to be a willing vessel and through that, He will produce the results.  That should take the pressure off ourselves.  In every area of our lives, God just wants us to be a willing vessel and He will produce the right results.  The results that are right in His eyes.  Let your hands be willing, let your feet be willing, let your mouth be willing.  That's it.  In a sense we have to set our hands loose to be used, we have to set our feet loose to be used, we have to set our mouths free to be used.  Be used by God.  Don't withhold your hand.  If you have strength in your body and you are willing, set it free to be used.  If you're not willing, pray for the strength and the willingness and God will supply.

Philippians 2:13New King James Version (NKJV)
13 for it is God who works in you both to will and to do for His good pleasure.

Monday, July 20, 2015

Tuesday - There comes a time..

There comes a time.......when we have to stop shrinking back from things that appear to big for us, over our heads, or beyond our qualifications.  Here is what happens:  We experience some success here and there in our lives but we stay where we are comfortable, where we feel we are able.  But God does bring us to a point where somehow, that place where we once felt confident, just doesn't feel right anymore.  It's time to move forward and go beyond that. Somehow, you know that the place where you are comfortable is no longer able to nourish your life.  You gotta keep moving forward putting one foot in front of the other.  I'm cautious because I've been burnt bad, but still moving because I know God is leading me.  When you have reached a place in your life where you have stopped growing, then it's time to seek God and be ready for Him too move you to a place where you can start growing again.

Sunday, July 19, 2015

Monday - "Things are always changing"

As I was watching an old movie I still enjoy just as much as when I was young or even more now; I realized how much things have changed and people have changed since the movie was made.  Even the artists, in the movie, have grown and changed so much. Some have entered into new areas of business and new areas of growth in the entertainment industry.  These artists were trailblazers and now have a position of honor in the music industry because of their earlier efforts and achievements. But my main point was that they did not stay the same.  God stays the same, but everything else and everybody else is constantly changing.  This Monday my focus is that "Things are always changing"  I pray that you let that statement encourage your heart today, because sometimes you feel stuck and sometimes you have been wondering how long you are going to have to do whatever it is you're doing.  Well, things are always changing. God is always moving in your life.  You may not be able to see it or feel it at the time but change is underway.  God wants to get you from point A to point B and His desire is to do it miraculously as you fight against the tides and waves that seek to sway you off your coarse.  When you are constantly fighting the tides and waves that tend to discourage you, it's hard to feel like you are moving forward.  You don't feel like you're going anywhere.  Trust me you are going somewhere, you are moving forward.  Your job is to fight to stay on coarse, God's job is to get you to where you're going.  Pray according to Psalm 121:3, that God will not allow your foot to be moved

Psalm 121:3New King James Version (NKJV)
He will not allow your foot to be moved;
He who keeps you will not slumber.

Look at nature and the seasons, the changes in the trees, the colors of the leaves.  Look at animals and how they go through the changes of seasons.  Don't become fustrated with your life,  as sure as the seasons change is as sure as you can be that you will experience change in your life as well.  This is how God designed it.  Genesis 8:22 says so

Genesis 8:22 New King James Version (NKJV)
22 “While the earth remains,
Seedtime and harvest,
Cold and heat,
Winter and summer,
And day and night
Shall not cease.”

Keeping my mind focused on these things has helped me through years and years of waiting for certain things to take place in my life.  I stand as a living witness to tell you that things change, circumstances change, people change, and life changes.  Believe God!

Wednesday, July 15, 2015

Thoughts for Thursday

What should the Thursday expectations be?????  The week is winding down and today things didn't go exactly as I had wished, but it was a good day.  The week is winding down and I do have some deadlines that I would like to meet.  But I am reminded to not let those deadlines control me.  I cannot give those deadlines a position that they don't deserve.  As a work-at-home mom with 2 kids at home.  Everything must fall in it's proper order of priority on a daily basis.  My first priority is my thoughts towards God, my next priority is my kids.  My mornings are devoted to getting them out for a little while so they don't drive me crazy for the day and so I can get some work done when the time comes.  Noontime ushers in my work time.  My work time only gets about 2 hours of my day.  That's where it fits with my current priorities.  However, somehow God is blessing it and it works out.  The way I prioritize my day is motivated by my peace with God, my desire to be good to my husband, and my desire to be good to my kids.  There is a certain way that things have to fall in order to bring out the best in me and not the worst in me.  I prioritize myself to bring out the best in myself .  I believe that's important.  If you make alot of money or you are a star on your job, what does it matter if you are a jerk to everyone in your family because you're stressed out.  I think it's a good idea to be more in-tune with what the best rhythm is for your life.  My life felt out of rhythm for a while.  Not necessarily because of "what" I was doing, but more so because of "how" I was doing it.  It felt awkward and unnatural and I don't believe life is suppose to feel like that.  Especially because God destined me, before I was in my mothers womb, to become what He designed me to be.  Life should fit.  If life doesn't "fit" for you, it might not be because you need to change what you're doing, but
  maybe  you need to just change how you're doing it.  Find your rhythm.   

“Before I formed you in the womb I knew you;
Before you were born I sanctified you;
I ordained you a prophet to the nations.” (Spoken by God to Jeremiah in Jeremiah 1:5)

Ande Carr
Coach & Trainer
(347) 766-6212  

Tuesday, July 14, 2015

Waiting Wednesday

I think Wednesday is a good day to talk about waiting.  Because I believe we're all waiting for something.  Some of us are just waiting for the end of the week and Wednesday is "hump day".  Others of us might be waiting to see if an opportunity is going to come through.  Some of us might be awaiting some test results that have us nervous.  Some might be simply waiting for a phone call from that special someone.  And you just don't know if they are going to call. Whatever you're waiting for, keep in mind that according to the scripture below, your days are in God's hands.

Psalm 139:16
Your eyes saw my substance, being yet unformed. And in Your book they all were written, The days fashioned for me, When as yet there were none of them.

 As you wait, please know that God has the power to bless you and no man can take that away.  He will command others to bless you, without them even knowing it.

Deuteronomy 28:8
The Lord will command the blessing on you in your storehouses and in all to which you set your hand, and He will bless you in the land which the Lord your God is giving you.

God commands the blessing to come forth; please believe that, as you "wait".  As you approach "hump day", take some time to consider that your days are not in the hands of anybody but God.  No doctor, no person, no disease, no debt ; only God 's hands.  Your days are not in the hands of your employer or even your spouse.  Your days are not in the hands of your children, your neighbors, your friends, or your customers.  Your days are in the hands of God.  And you can trust Him, if you will trust Him.  Please take some time to think about the fact that God alone can "command" the blessing on you in every area of your life.  Are you waiting for your marriage to get better?  God can command the blessing on your marriage.  Are waiting for your finances to get better?  God can command the blessing on your finances.  Are you waiting for your health to get better?  God can command the blessing on your health.   Are you waiting for you children to get better?  God can command the blessing in your children's life.  Are you waiting for your job to get better?  God can command the blessing on you in your job.  Are you waiting for your business to grow?  God can command the blessing on your business.  Are you waiting to get a job?  God can command the blessing on you in your job search.  Yes whatever you are waiting for, it is in the hands of God and He can command that blessing on whatever you are waiting for.  God bless.

Ande Carr
Coach & Trainer
(347) 766-6212

Monday, July 13, 2015

Take Advantage of Tuesday

Hopefully you got some good momentum going for your Monday.  I always try to start the week off slow but strong.  Many times, however I start off, on Monday, sets the stage for how the week is going to go.  It's all about my attitude, what I'm focusing my thoughts on.  If I am bending towards the negative it tends to affect my whole week.  If I am feeling overwhelmed, it tends to affect my whole week.  If I am feeling burnt out, it tends to affect my whole week.  If I am feeling offended, it tends to affect my whole week. The list goes on, but you get my drift.  Mindset is everything for me.  For Tuesday, I feed off the momentum that has started on Monday. On Tuesday, don't let yourself be all over the place, keep up your focus and your momentum.  We all know as we inch towards the end of the week we start to taper off.  I know I do.  My momentum starts to slow around Wed, late afternoon and I start to go downhill with my energy level.  My focus gets a little loose.  But that's alright because I'm human and that's just how I'm wired.  I now embrace it and try to take advantage of when I am strong and have some good momentum and focus, because it will get weaker after a couple days.  There are limits to our momentum and our focus, so don't feel bad about it, just take advantage of when you are focused and you do have good momentum.  Trust me,  it works!!!   I use to be hard on myself because I felt like I didn't have the energy to go, go, go like other people that I knew.  But now I know that it doesn't mean that there is something wrong with me or even that it is something I need to work on.  It just means I'm wired differently and I might need a slower pace, or I might not have as much endurance.  But when I embrace this, it empowers me to know that I should go strong when I am strong.

Ande Carr  
Coach & Trainer
(347) 766-6212

Sunday, July 12, 2015

Monday under control

As I look at the fact that Monday is less than 12 hours away, I'm examining how I feel going into my week.  I'm a feeling tired?  Am I feeling intimidated?  Am I feeling spiritually built up?  Am I ready?  I have to decide tonite (Sunday) that I am not going to be all over the place in my focus, I have to reign all the creative energy in to focus on the main areas of my life right now.  I need to get through my day with 2 young children home with me.  I need to bring my motivation and energy also into the one thing I'm focused on in my professional life.  Honestly, when I look at Monday, I need to be prepared to be there for my kids and set a healthy pace for their day and I need to handle my business matters for a couple hours when my kids are having downtime. That's really it!!!  If Monday has got you down or overwhelmed.  If your to-do list is too long,  think about one thing in each area, that by doing it, it will make everything else easier or unnecessary.  I guarantee that your list will get very short.  Look, my house could definitely be cleaner, my laundry is not folded and dirty clothes are piling up again.  I have dishes and pots in the sink, as we speak that need to be washed.  My black kitchen counters show every inch of dirt the way only "black counters" can show it. Trust me I could have many things on my to-do list tomorrow.  But guess what?  I only have 2 things.  It's the 2 things that will make everything else easier or unnecessary.  My 2 things are
1.  Get my kids out of the house to burn off some energy for a little while
2.  Make cold calls for my business and one of my clients for 2 hours

THat's it!  Get the kids out the house and make cold calls.  "Everything else" doesn't make it onto the list.  Because getting my 2 main things done will make the "everything else" easier.  

Ande Carr
Coach & Trainer
(347) 766-6212

Wednesday, July 8, 2015

Making life easier

Making life easier.....................Somewhere along the way I think it was instilled in me that life was not suppose to be easy, nor should you seek to make life easy.  I am learning that as God brings more into my life, that I have to seek to make life easier in ways where it is possible.  In the past, self-righteousness has kept me from taking the "easy way out".  No, there was so much I wanted to do myself and I thought I was suppose to be able to do myself.  If I couldn't do it myself, that made me a "bad mom" or a "bad wife".  But that self-righteous attitude can rob you from what God truly has in store for you and your family.  That attitude even robs your family.  Learn to ask yourself, everyday "What is the ONE thing I could do today that would make everything else easier or unnecessary?".  The answer might not come to you right away, but if you speak that question out, as your morning progresses, the answers will come.  Asking the right questions at the beginning of your day will give you answers that will make your day run much smoother.  It re-trains your brain to think differently about your day.

We all come to various crossroads in our lives at different points in our lives.  Those crossroads are a blessing from God.  I think it's God giving us an opportunity to look at the path that we have been on, examine where that path has taken us and how we feel about where our current path has taken us.  Then there are options in front of us.  Do we want to keep going on our current path?  Are we happy with the fruits of our current path?  Do we think our current path has anything else to  offer us or our family?  Is our current path going to produce what God wants to produce in our lives in this season?  These questions will help us to determine whether or not it's time to get on another path.  It's not always time.  But God helps us determine when it's time.  He will give us wisdom as we ask these questions.  "Crossroads" are God's way of having us to ask the questions that He wants to answer for us.

As we go about life, the areas where we benefit from "pushing" ourselves, change from one season to the next. If you have been pushing yourself in a certain area for years and you were growing as a result of it, but you have stopped growing.  That's a red flag that it's probably time to focus on a different area of your life.

Ande Carr
Coach & Trainer
(347) 766-6212

Monday, July 6, 2015


Many people if you asked them they wouldn't be able to tell you what they would really love to do with their lives.  Most of us are even afraid to even think that we could do what we truly dream of doing.  We are afraid because:
1.  What if we can never have that which we dream of?
2.  What if I admit to what I really want and I'm not able to pursue it?

I am reading a book that points out that saying "yes" to the one big thing we really want to do, ultimately means saying "no" to alot of other things.  It also means blocking large amounts of time to grow in that area, so we can perfect and master our craft.  Many of us see things as something we just want to do, not something we want to master.  I am learning in my own life that not choosing "the one big thing", in your life, that you want to pursue on a personal level, leads to a life that is kind of all over the place and searching for one's purpose.

In the area of personal development, to choose one thing to spend basically a lifetime developing seems a little extreme right?  Well,I think it sounds a bit extreme, but what if you want extraordinary results in your life?  I have seen the "ordinary" results in the lives of others and my own life, and ordinary is great for a little while but "ordinary" does not seem to be feeding my soul's purpose anymore. I crave more!!!!  Do you??  I don't think there's anything wrong with anyone who doesn't crave more out of life.   I don't think it's about right and wrong, when it comes to this.  I think it's about the individual person and we were each created in the image of God to reflect something different about Him.  It's important to not be afraid of your "craving" for more, but rather explore it.  See what it's all about.  Get more acquainted with what's in your heart.  It can take a very long time, so get started now and take the first step.  Some of us are so scared to take that first step because we know that as soon as they acknowledge what's in their heart, it's going to change their lives and we are not all ready for such a drastic change yet.  That's ok too.  I have realized that if you don't, there will come a point where you start shrinking as a person instead of growing.  You will start to experience "shrinkage" in all the important relationships around you.  My relationships with God and those closest to me are really what's most important in my life.  I'm even at a place in my own life, where I know I have to move forward in my own heart's desires or I will start to experience "shrinkage" in my own life, as an individual.  We have specific seasons in our lives that are optimal for growth, but if we are not careful, to move on when it's time, those same seasons can stunt your growth and you can begin to shrink instead of grow.  My question for you and myself is "Where do I have to go,
in order to grow?"  As a mom and wife, I spend most of my time tending to the needs of my family.  But I'm realizing that if I don't grow, my family will suffer.

Ande Carr
Coach & Trainer

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