Saturday, December 31, 2011

Still on my mind

The things that remain deeply engraved in my heart are the things I talk about on this blog all the time
The immense importance of my role in my husband's life and that I continue growing into the helper that God wants me to be to him.
As a mother that while knowing I cannot do it all; thatmi continue to give attention to the areas of my childrens lives that are most important. Their relationship with God, my relationship with them, and that they are being nurtured and developing in order to fulfill God's purpose for their lives.
As a woman that I am being all the woman that God designed me to be. There is a beauty, a gentleness, a confidence, a love for others that God desires me to have and I want to embody that

Thursday, December 22, 2011

Eternal beings

Whether you believe it or not, every human being on this earth is an eternal being. When we die, we will all be raised up again to eternal life. The question is "Where are you going to end up spending eternity?". Will you be with God because you have accepted Jesus Christ as your Savior or will you be separated from God in a place of torment the bible refers to as "hell". You may not want to believe it, but contrary to popular belief the "truth" is not relative. It will happen whether you believe it or not. I am 100% sure about that. The reason I am even talking about this is because even as "Christians" sometimes we have to be reminded that our life on this earth is a short breadthe compared to the eternity we will spend with god. So don't get so caught up. As you enjoy your life here, remember "This is not all there is."&

Sunday, December 18, 2011

Gave up for the weekend

It has become very clear to me that in our home, the weekends are not for cleaning house but rather for messing up house. So on Monday's the cleanup mission from the weekend starts. I am finally making peace with this fact. The family and I are normally spending time together on the weekends. we relax, we play, we go out, we try to just have fun and enjoy each other. Lifer gets so busy and we do try to keep our time together and with other family members in tact.

Saturday, December 17, 2011

My husband, my brother???

My devotional challenged me with 2 things. 

1.  The Word of God says that as husband and wife we are to love each other as brothers and sisters in Christ

2.  It asks why some Christians treat other Christians friends outside their home better than the ones in their own homes.

Obviously, my husband is much more than my brother in Christ, but I shouldn't let it cancel out that part of our relationship.  I think the marriage part of our relationship can interfere with the "loving like a brother in Christ" part of our relationship.  Obviously it is easier with the people outside our homes because we are not exposed to them in such an intimate way on a daily basis; and they are not exposed to us.  Dealing with the flaws in our spouse and the exposure of our own flaws on a daily basis can be difficult.  But I think this reminder helps.  Maybe I need to figure out how to still keep my love for my husband as a brother in Christ in tact apart from the marital issues that would seek to interfere with that.  Maybe on that note there needs to be a degree of separation of the 2 even though in marriage they are intermingled. But I feel like when you have an argument or something upsets you or offends you, before you respond you can ask yourself........."How would I respond to a brother in Christ?   I feel like if I could give attention to that relationship within the context of our marriage it would be much richer.  The bottom scriptures will help me I know!!

Hebrews 13:5, Hebrews 13:7 KJV Let your conversation be without covetousness; and be content with such things as ye have: for he hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee.

7 Remember them which have the rule over you, who have spoken unto you the word of God: whose faith follow, considering the end of their conversation.

The scriptures above remind me that since Jesus will never leave me or forsake me, I have all I need and I should be content with everything else in my life. and they also remind me to pay attention to the results of my husbands faith and follow his lead.

Tuesday, December 13, 2011

What do you do with your weaknesses????

For the last 2 days my devotionals have focused on delegation.  First with Moses and today with the apostles.  As my family is growing and my daughter is getting older, we are getting busier.  As a homemaker I have strengths and weaknesses. I'm not as organized as some people might be.  I'm not able to keep or clean house as efficiently as others.  I do have strengths as a homemaker, but that is not what I'm focused on right now.  I was meditating on this whole thing about delegation that keeps coming up with me lately..  I asked God "Well is there always a way to delegate, and what do you do when you can't delegate. The thing that came to mind was a scenario about a Choir Director.  Lets say there saw a person who knew they were called to be the Choir Director at their church.  They knew they were called to this role and so did everyone else in the church.  However, it was a small church and they did not have anyone to play the piano for the choir.  Now the "Choir Director"  could play the piano but was not that great.  The "Choir Director" plays the piano for the choir until they find someone else.  But the "Choir Director" does not decide to perfect his piano skills because that is not what he is called to do.  He is just filling in until someone else can take over.  . 

Monday, December 12, 2011

Just as I was about to jump in

Just as I was preparing to try to be super woman and jump into my tasks today, god sends me a reminder in Exodus 18:17,18. Moses's Father-in-law tells him that he is doing to much and it is not good for him. God saw my wheels turning this morning and he knew I was about to take on much more Than I should and it was like he was saying to me "ande I know what you're thinking so let me just stop you right now and tell you that what you are thinking you are going to do today is going to be too much, so just go ahead and slow it down before you even get started". While I believe god appreciated my intentions for the day, I don't think he would appreciate my ignoring his warning.

Good Morning Mondays!

I pamper my little girl to show her how much I love her.  When she wakes up in the morning, I carry her downstairs with my robe wrapped around her.  Then I snuggle her on the couch and warm her up while we chat for a little while.  Then when I've warmed her up I lay her on the couch with her blanket, turn on her favorite shows and get her some breakfast.  I shower her with love and attention before she gets sent off to school for the day.  At school she experiences a lot of good things but also some difficult things.  She has a little girl that insists on making it clear to Noah that she doesn't like her and is not her friend.  Noah doesn't have to say anything to her or even be near her, the girl will come over to Noah just to badger her.  Noah handles it well, but I can tell it's starting to get to her.  I'm going to talk to the teacher about it, to see what she advises.  Because I am of the believe that kids should be taught that while it's ok to not like someone, it's not ok to badger them about not liking them when they are not bothering you.  Either way, my baby goes out into her own little world.  It's not always nice.  While I'm proud of the way she handles herself, I know that she is still only 4 years old and needs mommy to step in at times, to keep things from getting overwhelming for her.  Praying that God gives me wisdom today as I approach her teacher.  My goal is not to get this little girl in trouble, because there is obviously something bothering her that has nothing to do with Noah.  I feel bad for her.  But I'm hoping the teacher can put some type of boundaries in place so this situation doesn't turn into a bullying situation for Noah.  It's sad that you have to address something like this at such a young age.  Kids go through so much now and they don't know how to handle it,   but you have to protect your own children.  God will give you wisdom on when and how to do that.

Tuesday, December 6, 2011

Parenting, personal note

Proverbs 3:12 - For whom the Lord loves, He corrects, just as a son in whom He delights
Hebrews 12:11 - all discipline for the moment seems not to be joyful, but sorrowful; yet to those who are trained by it, afterwards it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness.

I believe the above scriptures do not only help us in our parenting but also in our own relationship with our father in heaven.

My daughter turned 4 last week, the two main factors in parenting that I have seen yield the best fruit is sharing the word of God with her on a regular basis, through devotionals designed for her age; and the second is disciplining from a place of love. With an emphasis on making sure it comes from a place of love.

In my own experiences I have realized that there are some different emotions you can experience as a parent when a child misbehaves. There is anger, there is disappointment, there is grief, and there is also compassion. I believe all these emotions have their place in our relationship with our children. But I have seen the best fruit come from discipline when it comes from the place of compassion. I have been amazed by how quickly and how much her behavior improves as a result of loving, consistent, discipline. It is really hard to do it sometimes, because I just don't always feel like it. It has become a labor of love for me. I love her and ultimately I know that following through with discipline will help her in her relationship with god and really set her up to be able to come under God's covering and guidance. It will teach her not to despise His chastisement. I also find that Noah is a lot happier after she has had to go through a period of discipline. Most of the time we do timeouts or take away privileges; but ever so often my husband has to intervene and give a spanking. He hates doing it, but he loves Noah so very much and he knows when she needs it. I stay away from spanking because it is to emotional for me. While Reggie is able to do it with a very level head.

The world today is not very good at encouraging discipline with our children, but I just want to encourage parents to do what is best for their children now so they can grow to be happy, successful adults. I want Noah to grow up to have 3 things:
1. To know how much she is loved by God and her mommy and daddy
2. With a sense of security and safety that comes from being God's care
3. The self-control that is necessary to be successful in the Lord and in life

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