Tuesday, July 23, 2013

Marriage as women

I'm so excited about this particular blog post because of how marriage plays such a major role in understanding our relationship with Christ.  I also know as women we experience marriage differently than men.  That's the way God designed it.  It is so beautiful.  Keep in mind that our husbands are the head and represent the role of Christ to the church, in our homes.  I'm still absorbing this truth from God's word, but the more I line myself up with this truth in my marriage, the more joy I have in my marriage. One of the major things that the Holy Spirit has kept on my heart concerning marriage is to allow my expectations that I place on myself to line up with my husband.  There have been many a times where I have overwhelmed myself with demands.  Those expectations I have placed on myself did not come from God or my husband.  But when I relax and allow my husband and God to be my guide in terms of the demands I place on myself, I never get overwhelmed.  I am learning to rest in my husband just as I rest in Christ.  I am learning to enjoy my relationship with my husband as I enjoy my relationship with Christ.

Very important to appreciate being able to experience these relationships uniquely as a woman.  A women's physical body speaks proportions about how a women responds to relationships and the way she responds to life in general.  It's definitely worth some exploration.  We are fearfully and wonderfully made.  Why not explore that???  What is one major thing physically that makes us different from a man?  I would say the fact that we can carry, nourish and give birth to babies from our bodies is pretty major.  One thing that has been on my heart in terms of not placing unrealistic demands on myself, is to operate how God designed me to operate naturally.  What do we do well, naturally, as women?.  We carry things on the inside of us.  As women we can carry a lot more weight on the inside of us than men can.  We are designed that way physical and therefore we are designed that way spiritually as well.  Men, are physically designed to carry more on the outside.  Women are designed to carry more on the inside.  Men, when presented with a problem or issue, they are naturally inclined to want to fix it right then and there.  While women, like to think about things, ponder things.  It takes us a little longer to make decisions.  God designed us that way.  If you read in Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John.  You will notice it says on a few occasions that Mary, the mother of Jesus, carried things in her heart.  It didn't say Joseph did that, it said Mary did that.  We as women, nurture things and ideas that reside on the inside of us.  Just like we nurture babies as they grow and develop on the inside.  That's why men don't understand us, because many things happen on the inside of us, where nobody can see.  We don't even show right away as a baby is growing inside of us.  Just because you can't see it, doesn't mean that there is nothing there.  Exercise liberty to allow things to marinate, brew, and be nourished on the inside.  When it's time for others to see it, God will bring it out.

I want to stay with the word "nourish" for a moment.  We are designed to nourish and feed things.  This is starting to change the way I do everything, even teach my kids.  As women we have a enormous capacity to understand the unique needs of individuals.  Because God designed us to "nourish"  it is part of our purpose as women.  In marriage,  I'm trying to step back and focus more on nourishing my family than anything else.  I'm praying and asking God to help me to begin to walk totally and completely in my power, natural & supernatural ability to nourish.  When my husband comes home from work, he should get nourished by me in whatever way he needs everyday.  I should be able to feed him in so many capacities.  I should be able to give him what he needs to continue to grow and blossom in the Lord.  Continued tomorrow................

Tuesday, July 2, 2013

You absolutely Can't serve 2 masters

As I was laying down this morning.................or maybe it was last night, but God spoke Luke 16:13 to me:

13 “No servant can serve two masters; for either he will hate the one and love the other, or else he will be loyal to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve God and mammon

I've started off this week a little weary, haven't felt up to doing my devotion at night after the kids went to bed. Summertime, I'm on a different schedule.  Both my young kids are home with me all day.  My 1 year old just started and walking and has also decided that he doesn't take long naps anymore.  By the time night falls, I am exhausted.  As I thought about this scripture, I was reminded of my children.   I know He is talking about money in the text, but this scripture applies to any area of your life.  God wants to be in control of every area.   He wants to be your master.  I realize He is telling me, that I can't let my children be masters in my life.  He is not saying I shouldn't serve them.  He is saying they should not be in control in any area of my life.  God has shown me over and over again that when I let something or someone else get some control over my life, I get weary and burnt out.  But when I let Him have all control, I'm always being renewed.  Kids have control always being drained and burned out, let God have control always being renewed. 

If you are tired and weary in your Christian walk, step back and consider whether or not you are giving control of your life over to anyone else  or anything else but God.  If you are, that is likely the reason why you are burned out.  Don't look on the outside, look into your heart and mind to see what's going on in there. 

God's ways are very opposite of the world.  Many times when we give God control, it can be uncomfortable.  You can tend to feel like you should be doing something other than what He has you doing.  You can tend to feel like you are not being productive enough.  You can tend to feel like you are not being responsible.  But God says that His ways are not our ways and His thoughts are not our thoughts.  When God has control over your life, it can feel awkward and weird for awhile.  You might feel like you should being doing things another way.  But if you continue in His ways, it will eventually become your way of life and it will eventually feel "right" to you.  His ways are right.  But in the beginning, it doesn't "feel" right.  But you have to continue in it. Repetition, repetition, repetition.  I have been listening to podcasts for months now, from different Pastors that encourage me.  I keep listening to the same ones over and over again.  It's gets difficult, I get tired of listening to the same thing over and over again.  But understand, that faith comes by hearing.  There are things you need to keep hearing over and over again until you start seeing the manifestation of it in your life. 

Always remember that God's ways flip the world's ways on their back.  As you go about business, raising your children, tending to yourself, building friendships, etc...............Keep in mind that God might have you go about it a little differently then you might expect and you should be open to that. 

I speak to you as a person who has lived out in the world.  My need for God was expressed in many destructive ways in the world: Sex, alcohol, pornography, drugs.  Trust me, I don't stand where I stand because of myself.  It is solely because of Jesus.  He pulled me out, He rescued me.  But I also stand here able to proclaim these things because as a Christian I have been in leadership and I have fallen.  I have fallen victim to my own pride and I have been a target of the enemy.  But for years, what might of appeared to others as a long, dry spell in my life, was really God teaching me, healing me, building me back up again.  I stand here to today, having been rescued from the world and having been built up again after a major fall in my Christian walk, to tell you these things that I say on this blog.  I have a deep familiarity with some things of the world and some things of God.  I know what I'm saying is true because I have lived it

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